Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy

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W. W. Norton & Company, Aug 3, 1999 - Family & Relationships - 456 pages
The Marriage Clinic presents a complete marital therapy program based on John Gottman's much heralded research on marital success and failure.

Here one will find not only a wide range of succinct and useful assessment procedures, but also a highly specific, research-based, and modularized treatment program. In addition, there are dozens of questionnaires and interview protocols to be used in both assessment and intervention.

In prospective, long-term research with over 700 couples, Gottman has discovered certain factors that distinguish happy, stable couples from both unstable, ultimately divorcing couples and stable but unhappy couples. These findings, which are explained here in understandable, nontechnical language, form the basis of his Sound Marital House theory of marriage, which guides the new therapy. This therapy has two goals: changing the marital friendship and teaching couples to regulate conflict.

Despite the high aims of much marital therapy, Gottman found that most marital conflicts involve fundamentally unresolvable relationship issues called "perpetual problems." He shows how therapists can help spouses move from gridlock to dialogue on these issues. Solvable problems can be resolved more easily when the couple has a strong marital friendship. He gives therapists the tools to teach spouses five fundamental skills to develop and strengthen their friendship: softened start-up, accepting influence, repair and de-escalation, compromise, and physiological soothing.

Gottman compares his clinic to a restaurant, where clients are offered a menu of treatment formats, from psychoeducation for specific issues to extended therapy to repair a badly damaged marital friendship. Therapists, too, can choose among the questionnaires and strategies for those that fit the needs of particular couples. Whatever their choice, they will find that their practice is greatly enriched by the scientifically-based offerings of The Marriage Clinic.
 

Contents

Chapter
5
1
28
Repair and the Core Triad of Balance
31
1
34
5
49
6
69
Appendix C
72
1
86
1 Family Rituals
261
Chapter 11
266
Avoiding Relapse
281
1 Aftermath of a Marital Argument Questionnaire
282
10
285
Working as a Team and Termi
292
1 Gottman Mountain Survival Problem
295
5 Marital Poop Detector
301

1
96
The Assessment of Marriage
113
Appendices
114
1
135
Assumptions and Intervention Overview
179
Specific Interventions Therapeutic Moments and Marital Walnuts
199
1
203
6
212
Solving What Is Solvable
218
1 Perpetual Issues
219
3 Rules for Softened Startup
226
Living with the Inevitable
234
1 Dreams Within ConflictSample Dreams
248
Life Dreams and Shared Meanings
260
Emotion and Metaemotion
307
Buffering Children from Marital Conflict
322
1 Differences in Teaching Styles of EC and ED Parents
324
Afterword
332
The Basic Questionnaires
335
Appendix B The Sound Marital House Questionnaires
375
The Basic Interviews
396
MetaEmotion Interview
402
Appendix
419
References
423
111
438
Index
443
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John M. Gottman, PhD, is William Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over two dozen books, including the bestseller 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, The Science of Couples and Family Therapy, The Science of Trust, and The Marriage Clinic.

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