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full of respect for inferiors as well as superiors, and full of respect for all. Learning alone, also, is not only affected and full of pretence, but it consists in talk, rather than in action; while wisdom is active and efficacious; manages and governs; is never troublesome; and when it seems so, is never out of time or place. If, then, there is such a superiority in wisdom, patiently acquired at the side of the household fire, over merely acquired knowledge, let Parents beware of their Child being brought up to be a mere scholar.

It is certainly a curious circumstance to see these two so often separated—a learned man without wisdom, and a wise man with but little learning; but this is a separation which might most frequently, and with great ease, be traced to the Parents of these men. Since wisdom, there

fore, is not taught at any school, and the wisdom of which I speak cannot there be infused, it remains for Parents alone to turn out such men and women into the world as have a measure of both in union. They may pay for learning, but they must teach wisdom. At all events no one else will-no one can. It is not the teacher's business, in general, but it is the Parent's, universally, to say

"Wisdom is the principal thing: my son, get wisdom; and with all thy getting, get understanding." When the boy reads, and acquits himself well, the teacher may indeed say "I taught the boy," but it remains for the Father or the Mother to add, with far different feelings, "I have taught him in the way of wisdom, and I led him in right paths. Often, often have I said- Be not wise in thine own eyes: trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not to thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct thy paths.'"

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Prudence, too, or wisdom applied to practice, or the practice of acting with uprightness, it is your province to teach; for though the inconstancy and uncertainty of all

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UNIVERSIT sublunary things render it a difficult acquirement, still there is such an excellency, and one of great value. Though "the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor yet riches to men of understanding," still there is an order and succession in human events, which render prudence of essential moment. There is a time, and there is a manner too, in human things: hence the wise man's heart is said to "discern both time and judgment."

Truth and Sincerity.-Telling the truth, upon all occasions, can only result from loving it; but as no one can be expected to see the beauty, as well as the justice of truth and uprightness, between man and man, or child and child, except he be instructed in and by the truth or word of God; so upon you, in a special and peculiar degree, must depend the means by which alone your Children are to be possessed of this conscientious and willing regard, to the dispositions of sincerity or integrity, in all they say or do. The understanding of these fundamental truths of Christianity, therefore, to which I have adverted, however much they have been overlooked or disdained, will be found, I am persuaded, the seed, and the only security of that sincerity and regard for truth, on all occasions, which you desire to infuse. I trust you know Him who "desireth truth in the inward parts,” and who alone can create in your dear Children that spirit in which "there is no guile." He alone "in the hidden part" can "make them to know wisdom"; and to him therefore must you ever look: for not only is "understanding a well-spring of life to him that hath it," and the "wise in heart called prudent," but "the heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning," and sincerity and truth "to his lips."

There is one melancholy reason for you, as Parents,

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paying a vigilant regard to truth and accuracy in the most trifling occurrences of life yourselves; that is the degree of falsehood and mistake which exist in the world. thing but experience," said Dr. Johnson, "could evince the frequency of false information, or enable any man to conceive that so many groundless reports should be propagated, as every man of eminence may hear of himself. Some men relate what they think as what they know; some men of confused memories and habitual inaccuracy, ascribe to one man what belongs to another; and some talk on without thought or care. A few men are sufficient to broach falsehoods, which are afterwards innocently diffused by successive relaters." In the training of Children, therefore, a strict attention, on the part of Parents, to truth, even in the most minute particulars, is of the first importance. "Accustom your Children," said the same author, "constantly to this; if a thing happened at one window, and they, when relating it, say that it happened at another, do not let it pass, but instantly check them; you do not know where deviation from truth will end." "But," said a lady at the table, "little variations in narrative must happen a thousand times a-day, if one is not perpetually watching." "Well, madam," he replied, "and you ought to be perpetually watching. It is more from carelessness about truth, than from intentional lying, that there is so much falsehood in the world."

Should you, then, only guard yourselves, habitually, against inaccuracy and exaggeration, you will also encourage your Children uniformly to tell the truth, whether for or against themselves. To assist you in promoting this, you will find in the Scriptures, both of the Old and New Testaments, most powerful assistance. See Moses frankly and openly leaving it upon record, not only that his brother had been verging towards idolatry, and his two nephews

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struck dead, but that he himself was a man "slow of speech;" Isaiah, that he was a man of unclean lips ;" Jeremiah, that "he could not speak, for he was a child;" Amos, as artlessly telling, that he "was no prophet, neither a prophet's son, but an herdman and a gatherer of sycamore fruit, when the Lord took him as he followed the flock, and said to him, Go prophesy unto my people Israel."

Point your Children to such instances in the New Testament, as that of Matthew telling us himself, what the other evangelists have not, that he had been a "publican," which in those days was often nothing short of an extortioner. Show them, that when the disciples, all united, could not cure a man, they tell us, and Matthew, one of themselves, must tell us also the cause-their unbelief; that they all agree in leaving upon record their ambitious contest for superiority, as to which of themselves should be the greatest; and after all, their universal departure from Jesus when apprehended. Show them that none of the evangelists conceal Peter's fall; nay, that Mark, who is supposed to have been under the eye of Peter, records it with additional aggravation, noticing also what the others had omitted, that warning which the first crowing of the cock should have given him. So also Luke neither conceals the contemptuous opinion which the Jewish Sanhedrim had of Peter and John, nor the still more contemptuous idea which the Athenians entertained of Paul; while, at the same time, Paul himself regards Luke as "the beloved physician," if not "the brother whose praise was in all the churches."

If any man will not believe such speakers of truth as these, you can say to your Children, then there is no help for him. Greater marks of sincerity can nowhere else be found; and this which you have pointed out to them is but one of the features of sincerity-that they always

tell the truth, whether it is for or against themselves. And of what advantage is that to them now that they are gone? or to the cause which they had all espoused? Why, that their character as men is unimpeachable, and that their testimony is now, and ever will be, invulnerable. The very infidel, yes,

"The infidel has shot his bolts away,

Till his exhausted quiver, yielding none,

He gleans the blunted shafts that have recoil'd,
And aims them at the shield of truth again;"

but still in vain, and so it ever must be. Now, if your Children only possess this disposition, whether you leave them rich or poor, you will have implanted one of the best securities for their being respected, and respectable, whatever be their station in future life.

If, however, you really wish them to possess this, or shall I say, inherit it from yourself? then will you never amuse them, as some foolish people do, by attempting to deceive them and then will you never employ cunning, or artifice of any kind, to gain your end, or, as some strangely dream, save trouble. Artifice is detected by Children far sooner than many imagine; and once detected in you, you have given your character a stab. You will also as carefully beware of urging your Children strongly, or with violence, whether of temper or manner, to confession of any thing, even of any thing which you suspect; and should you even inadvertently, at any time, accuse a Child falsely-a mistake which inevitably tends to break the spirit, and diminish his sense of integritythen, for such a mistake, you must make an apology to your Child.

Have patience, then, and look up to the Implanter of this invaluable disposition; and the day may come, even in this life, when you will receive your reward; when you will be able, without any danger of increasing the vanity

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