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THE SECOND AMERICAN EDITION.
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No. 124, Pearl Street, NEW-YORK.
OU defire, you say, my impartial thoughts
on the subject of an early marriage, by way of answer to the numberless objections that have been made by numerous persons to your own. You may remember when you consulted me on the occafion, that I thought youth on both sides to be no objection. Indeed, from the marriages that have fallen under my observation, I am rather inclined to think, that early ones stand the best chance of happiness. The temper and habits of the young are not yet become fo ftiff and uncomplying, as when more advancedl in life; they form more easily to each other, and hence many occasions of disgust are removed. And if youth has less of that prudence which is necessary to manage a family, yet the parents and elder friends of young married perfons are generally at hand to afford their advice, which amply supplies that defect; and by early marriage, youth is sooner formed to regular and
useful life ; and pollibly some of those accidents or connections, that might have injured the condi. tution or reputation, or both, are thereby happily prevented. Particular circumstances of particular perfons, may possibly sometimes make it prudent to delay entering into that state; but in general
, when nature has rendered our bodies fit for it, the presumption is in nature's favour, that she has not judged amiss in making us defire it. Late mariages are often attended, too, with this further inconvenience, that there is not the same chance that the parent shall live to see their offspring en ducated. “ Late children,” says the Spanish proverb, “ are early orphans.” A melancholy reflection to those whose case it may be! With us in America, marriages are generally in the morn. ing of life ; our children are therefore educated and settled in the world by noon; and thus, our business being done, we have an afternoon and e vening of cheerful leisure to ourselves, such as our friend at present enjoys. By these early marriages we are blefled wiili more children; and from the mode among us, tounced by nature, of every nio ther suckling and nurting her own child, more of them are raised. Thence the swift progress of pod pulation am ug us, unparalleled in Europe. In fine, I am glad you are married, and congratulate you most cordiaily upon it. You are now in the way of becoming a uteful citizen ; and you have escape: the unnatural state of celibacy for lifethe fate of many here, who never intended it, buc who having too long postponed the change «f their conditin, iind, at length, that it is 100 l.ce to think of i, akisali the lives in a funtion that greatly lefiens a man's value. Au odd vo
lume of a fet of books bears not the value of its
proportion to the set: what think you of the odd half of a pair of scissors ? it can't well do any thing; it may possibly serve to scrape a trencher.
Pray make my compliments and best wishes acceptible to your bride. I am old and heavy, or I thould ere this have presented them in perfon. I shall make but small use of the old man's previlege, that of giving advice to younger friends. Treat your wife always with respect; it will procure respect to you, not only from her, but from all that observe it. Never use à flighting expression to her, even in jest ; for slights in jest, after frequent bandyings, are apt to end in angry earnest. Be studious in your profession, and you will be learned. Be industrious and frugal, and you will be rich. Be sober and temperate, and you will be healthy. Be in general virtuous, and you will be happy. At least, you will, by such conduct, stand the best chance for such consequences. I pray God to biess
you both! being ever your affectionate friend,
ON THE DEATH OF HIS BROTHER, MR,
TO MISS HUBBARD.
luar nd valuable relation. But it is the will of God and nature, that these mortal bodies be laid